Tuesday, February 24, 2009

So, What Do You DO?

Do you ever feel like you are expected to sum up your life, your dreams and aspirations, in this one answer? Do you ever feel like you could never even begin to express what you DO in this question?

I feel like my answer SHOULD be 'well, I read a lot, I really enjoy a good book. I like to write, even if it is just doodling around in an old journal. I like to connect with other human beings. I love my husband, I play with my dog, I observe the world around me. I take a lot of pictures, so I know I won't forget anything'. I mean, those are the things I actually DO.
I suppose technically I am a student, and yes, I do study, and I like to learn, but is that what defines me?

For example, do I honestly believe that the woman who rang up my groceries today can really be defined by her job at the checkout counter? Do I want anyone to define me by my job?

I guess I feel like there is a LOT of emphasis based on what people DO, and not who they ARE. Maybe that is why I like reading other people's blogs so much, because I get to glimpse them as they see themselves. I am much more interested in the 'who they are' aspect of people's lives, and it is a shame that that is not the first question we ask when we meet someone new. I think that it is really a part of our human need to categorize people into things we understand and relate to.

Don't get me wrong, I do it too. I meet a new person and within moments I am asking them what they DO, when really what I mean is...what do you like to do?

So I am asking you my friends, what do you DO? Not 'where do you work?', not 'what is your title?', but what do YOU do?


  1. man, that's a little profound for me this early in the morning. And why does it seem so hard to answer? What DO I do?

  2. Good question! I agree: most people do not want to be defined by their jobs (although some do...)

    I like your idea that we should ask: what do you like doing? instead of what do you do?

  3. Girl, I love your blog! I love how inspiring and profound you are in your writing!!!

  4. I now have a stock anwer, one that I am happy with, I am a photographer. It is not what I do, but what I want to be known as. Of course it sounds a little bold coming out of my mouth. My ears cringe a little. The more I speak it, the more comfortable I am with it.

    I think that visualizing and speaking a dream, will help me realize it.

    And besides, it can mean so many different things to so many different people.

    Great post Bekah. I love all of your posts, they make me think, they make me laugh, they make me sigh.

    This is one of your best!


  5. Great Post! You are so right. For me staying at home with my daughter is important, even though I feel like I am losing part of myself. I sometimes feel like I didn't or don't do anything. Nine out of ten times I am thinking about her-when to feed her, does she need laundry, where does she have to go....

    But what do I like to do?? I love anything creative: taking photos, sewing, scrapbooking, crafts of any kind. My brain needs to do those things and I enjoy them. I love hanging with the girls. Shopping for a bargain. I love my family.

  6. I attempt to capture the beauty that I see all around me. That is what I do. Do I do it well? Maybe/ maybe not. But I enjoy it, it makes me happy. You only have to look around to see the beauty that surrounds us. Maybe you should tell us what we do? What do you see? Me, I see (in you) A smart funny loving friend. One who lookes deeper than the surface of the person. You love your husband. You live to live. That is what I see in you. I am happy to call you my friend.

  7. Love this & I totally agree with you!

    My answer:

    When I'm not busy at work, you can usually find me really happy hanging out with my husband or playing with my sweet little puppy!

  8. AH I love this!

    I laugh, dream, scheme, look for light, people watch, read, play, etc...

  9. Excellent realization. Keep it up.

  10. Currently I AM an oven for one. Otherwise I am a constant seeker of laughter, music, drama, art and love.

    That's the best I could do with a raging headache.

    Awesome post!


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