Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Some Days

Some days, I feel like I need to go stick my head in the creek. Just for a little while, just so it's quiet. Just so the crying is drowned out for a little while.

I'd offer up a backstory here, explaining why I feel this way, but I really don't think I need to do so. Jack is a baby, babies are notorious for crying. It's a part of their development, I know this, I just....aggggghhhh.

I think my feelings are amplified today because of the three feet of snow on my front porch that prohibits us from going ANYWHERE. I think possibly Jack is feeling cooped up and restless as well. He won't nap, he won't nurse, he won't play. But he will cry.

I feel so bad for him - nothing I do seems to make it better today. I feel like such a bad mother, because I'm hiding out on the computer while Matt takes his turn trying to console the baby.

Is this guilt just a normal part of motherhood?

9 comments:

  1. This is totally normal and will, eventually (though in my experience so far never) pass. Some days all you can do is let them cry. Get the baby safe in his crib. Get on the phone, internet, take a hot bath, fold laundry, watch an episode of spongebob. Do what you have to for 15-30 minutes. He'll either fall asleep or entertain himself, it's hard but not unreasonable. Good luck!

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  2. I know what you mean, been there and done that! You are not a bad mom...good moms know they need a little break. I will say this....with my daughter, she developed an allergy to the breast milk and we did not know it, after about a week of constant crying, switched to soy based milk and the difference was like night and day....now talk about feeling like...a bad mom. I figure that was my son's problem too, only I did nothing but suffer thru the crying and him too....oh well....I was young and did the best I could...go take a walk Bekka, enjoy he quiet of outdoors for a break...hugs baby girl....it is hard some days, but oh, so worth it!!

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  3. I hear ya on this one!!

    First let me preface with who i am and how i found your blog in a "its a small world situation. My husband graduated with Matt and i graduated the year between him and Mike. During my pregnancy i frequented the baby center message boards but would sometimes go on the bump. During the last few weeks of my pregnancy i came across a post of yours and stumbled onto your blog only to realize that i knew your husband. Crazy how stuff like that happens!

    Anyway, we had our son October 22 and we have had a few weeks now of a lot of crying! He was a very content newborn up until he was 3 months old then he turned into a fussy magussy ... not quite sure whats going on with him but i just wanted to say that you are not alone; let's just hope it is a phase they grow out of :-)

    I am a mommy/baby blogger as well; our blog is http://growingongettysburg.blogspot.com/

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  4. Yes, this is normal. A baby crying is biologically supposed to be completely untolerable... it was how our race survived and evolved past the caveman stage. If crying wasn't intolerable, human babies would have been abandoned after the first bout of colic! Now that we're educated and developed, I'm really wishing babies came with a volume dial. Hang in there... it gets better. (For some of us, the getting better doesn't come soon enough, but it DOES come!)

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  5. My now 15 year old middle child cried for 3 months straight...24/7...one day I had just reached my limit and put her in her crib. I was crying as well when I closed her bedroom door and walked outside to sit on the porch...
    By the time we visited the pediatrician about a week later, I started crying and confessed what I had done. I was like you and considered myself a bad parent. My pediatrician told me that putting my child in her crib and knowing that I needed some time to myself was exactly the opposite of bad parenting...it was a sign of GOOD parenting. Hang in there...it does get better. :)

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  6. I so remember going through this with my first born. OH I felt I was going crazy. Not to mention raging hormones trying to recoop from being prego. My hub would take our son for rides in the car to soothe his cries. It worked but for you, hopefully you'll have better weather. Take some time away and go outside or take a nap. You need rest too!

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  7. Geez, I remember when Jared was an infant...when he would cry it would go right through me. I don't know how to explain it, and I probably don't have to, but I couldn't think if he was crying. I was as if I HAD to drop whatever I was doing to take care of it. I don't know if it was maternal instincts or hormonal, but I think I understand what you're talking about.
    Hang in there...the best is yet to come!

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  8. I don't have a crying baby in the house and the snow is driving me crazy. I'm home from work today b/c it was so bad. The news was in our town to show how HORRIBLE the roads were. BLAH.

    I'm definitely in a snow depression.

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  9. Sounds like you are crying about this situation just as much as Jack is, so stop crying about it! Be thankful that your baby is healthy and that you have a wonderful husband to help you out.

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