Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Good Timing

About an hour after I wrote that last post, we recieved the email from our lawyer.  Details aside, it's not really good.  In fact, it's pretty bad.  There are things we could do, and there are some facts we could dispute...basically justa lot of gray areas that would be hard to fight from a legal standpoint. 

We think that for the sake of our family, and our marriage, that it's time to lay down our weapons and finally start moving forward.  It won't be easy and I will try not to cry about it on here too much, but...we won't be able to move back in to our home, ever.  Sorry, no, our HOUSE.  We will make a new home, somewhere. Dont be surprised if I stop writing about it altogether for a while...I see no point in dwelling on all the little details, you probably don't want to know them anyway.

The bottom line is that we can't really affford to fight a battle we would possibly(probably) lose, and we can't affgord to fix a house that we would never feel comfortable taking our child back into.  Even if we had the money for the total cost f the repairs (which we don't) neither of us want Jack back in there. 

This hurts.  A lot.  But in a way it is the first time in three months that we have any direction.  We may not like where we are, but we aren't in limbo anymore. 

Feek free to ask any questions you have, I'll try to answer them to the best of my ability.  I know some of you wanted us to fight this, but even our lawyer is telling us that it would probably come down to a legal jugdement that could go either way...and that wouldn't happen for a long time.  It's already been three months, we can't do this anymore.


  1. There is nothing wrong with accessing the damage, and choosing to move forward. It's how you move forward that is going to define whom, and what you are as a family.

    That said, I am so very sorry that you were subjected to this hardship. Not every person, or group in this world is good, and that's a hard lesson to learn, at any age.

    I wish you the best, and look forward to seeing your new home. It certainly is where the heart is, not the dwelling.

    Good things will come of this, just wait. Hugs to you all.


  2. At some point you have to move on..this is probably just a good of spot as any. Lawsuits take forever, who wants to be in that kind of limbo for years? Probably only the people that have homes and are not living with their parents. Hang in there..glad to hear that Jack is sleeping alone:)

  3. Liz Hartlaub-WillmanJune 8, 2010 at 5:02 PM

    So I have been reading your blog for a while and my heart just goes out to you. I am glad however, to hear that you are now at a place that you and Matt and Jack can move on. I am sure it is not how you wanted to move on, but move on none the less. Please know that you Matt and Jack have and are in our prayers as you move forward in this. We would love to get together with you guys sometime and catch up!!!

  4. I'm so sorry. ((hugs)) I can't imagine all that you guys are going through. I would do the same. I wouldn't want to subject myself let alone a child in a house with those conditions. I hope you guys get everything figured out soon!

  5. I'm so sorry things have turned out this way. But I think you are smart to try to move forward. I'm praying for you!

  6. I'm so sorry girl. I think ya'll are wise to move forward though, sometimes we just need to move on as hard as it is at times. :)

  7. Thank you all, I know I have said it before, but I cant even express how much I rely on your encouragement!

  8. I am so very sorry that you were subjected to this hardship.
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